What Is The Best Way To Select A Partner Looks,money Or Weight?
What is the BEST WAY to select a partner looks,money or weight?
I know some people say that looks are everything and that looks are number 1 priority for them when choosing a partner. I have heard many people say that there has to be some sort of physical attraction for any relationship to develop. To me, looks are NOT everything. Looks fade away. People become older and lose their youth then gain weight and become fat, which everyone dislikes. This is why many men cheat on their women because many women gain weight after childbirth and they don’t retain their shape so their men are NOT attracted to them anymore. Which only goes to show that these men were attracted in the beginning only when their partners were at their prime physically. That is NOT true love. If a man loved his partner unconditionally he would NOT cheat on her with other women. I’m a single woman and many married men have wanted to have an affair with me. Obviously, this only tells me that they are not happy with what they have at home. Anyway getting back to the point, what is the best way to select a partner? Ideally, I would want to choose a man who is intelligent,ambitious,attractive,rich,ed… personality,good in bed, nice muscular body, well rounded etc. Basically everything positive but I know that is NOT reality. I have noticed lots of good looking men are uneducated/poor and stupid. Yeah, they may have a nice body but that nice body doesn’t pay the bills nor will that body allow for me to send my future children to private school. Look on TV, most of the men that are powerful and educated who are good providers are overweight/fat old and bald. If you go visit a prison for a tour you will see some very attractive men with nice bodies. As a woman, I would NOT want to have a baby with someone who has bad genes and has been in prison. Someone who has not been socialized and can’t function in our society and as a result is in prison. Exactly,what good does his looks and body do? Nothing!!! I don’t know about you people but these are things that I think about. I do realize that perfection does not exist. I’d much rather be with an overweight/obese man who is financially secure than I would be with a skinny, more attractive loser who has me living in a mobile home with him. I have noticed that people try to downplay money by saying that money isn’t everything and that money doesn’t bring happinesss. I totally disagree. Money is VERY important and I don’t know about you but money makes VERY happy. With money I can take vacations, live comfortably and at peace knowing that every thing is going to be ok. As much as some try to downplay it, money makes everyone happy. Money buys pretty much everything. If a person has some terminal disease then money can help you get treatment and maybe make you live longer whereas a poor person couldn’t even afford the medicines and treatments. It definitely helps so don’t deny it. Any suggestions or opinions I’d like to hear from you all. Even though I may not be attracted to someone initially, I can grow to like or even love the person in time regardless of their weight and looks. Personality and mind is very important and so is money. All this comes first before looks to me.
I think personality is what you should really look for in a person. Looks, well they may not have to be to die for, but as long as there is something you like about them, maybe their eyes, that is what really matters, because the beauty of eyes never fades. As far as women changing physically overtime so that men cheat on them, I know that there are men that change over time so that women cheat on them. Not just men cheat, women cheat too, just that it is more common to hear about a man’s cheating.
Okay, it’s good to have your ideal man in what you want in mind so you have something to go off of, but to get realistic after that the basics are personality, same morals and values, some level of education. That is what you need to consider most of all.
Now to the money issue…
Financial security is something that every one would look for, I just hope you wouldn’t marry for JUST that reason. That really hurts the person that you are marrying and they will feel used.
Money in itself does not buy happiness. Materialistic possessions only give you a short burst of joy until you totally forget about it and then you are no longer at that level of happiness. You could have all the objects in the world, but you would be very unhappy because you have everything, but you may not have what you really need which is family, friends, and love. Vacations, yes they are nice and all, but unless you have someone to spend it with…is it really that enjoyable? Money does make it easier to be able to time with your sister who lives 5 states away and all, but what was really important was that you were able to spend time with your sister. Money is what got you to see your sister, but the actual experience of visiting your sister is what made you happy. Not that you spent the money is what made you happy. Living comfortably, well it depends on what you mean as comfortably. If you like your 72 inch plasma tv with theatre seating in your very own living, yea I guess you could say you live comfortably. On the other hand I would settle for a small house with a small living room with decent comfy sofas that I could spend time with friends and family with maybe a 20 inch tv that we could all play video games in. I would save at least 50% or more by taking the less expensive version and I would still get the same level of enjoyment as I would in my 72 inch tv example. Everything is going to be okay….well you do have a point to some degree. But for the average person with a credit card debt and mortgage, it comes down to how you spend your money. Do you spend it lavishly with a $5 coffee every morning, Eating out for every meal of the day and just spending their money. That’s nice and all, but wouldn’t a nice home cooked meal that you made yourself for your friends and family be so much more satisfying. You would save a lot more money and have so much more enjoyment preparing the food wouldn’t you? I do agree with you though in the event of an illness and you need money to pay the bills, I do agree with you there. But it isn’t that hard to save money and still live a good life. From what I remember on an article I read that those who made a lot more money were not as close with their friends and family as those who didn’t make that much money. Probably because of work schedules and etc. You can still save money for your child’s future to go to a private school. I know a family that is on food stamps and I guess making a decent living with maybe at least 6 children in the house. They are all receiving private grade school and high school education. What those parents are sacrificing to pay for that education, with high school costing about $7,600 a year. What a sacrifice!, but it is all being paid off because they are sacrificing their own leisure so that their children get a good education even though they are “poor”. And from what I understand they are doing well.
Yea I do believe that you have to get to know someone on personality and it does come first before looks.
Anyway I hope I didn’t ramble on too much and made a few points for you to consider. Money does matter in a way, but don’t let that be a deciding factor in a person. You can still live well off even if you are with a person who makes a decent income.
Money makes life easier, but does not make life happier.
Paying medical bills is easy if you have money, but the happiness comes from the life you live and what you do with your life.
Pick a partner based on love, not on money